Your word is your bond...

We’re judged by our promises. Not so much by the things we say – that’s why ‘talk is cheap’. But a promise is a personal commitment no different than a contract – in that light, we must be careful what we promise. That said,

·      “It is OK to say 'no': you may be questioned why so it’s always good to have a reason.

·      It is OK to say 'I will think about it': just don’t forget to do that and always get back to the one to whom you made the commitment.

·      It’s OK to say ‘I’ll try’: make sure to follow through and keep everyone updated.

But once you promise something, do it. If you subsequently can’t follow through, make that known immediately to everyone concerned. But it’s not just actual promises that this applies to – if you say you’re going to do something, promise or not, the person to whom you said that thinks it’s a commitment – and most people consider them the same. Maybe it’s a gray area, but to the people relying on you, it’s not gray at all. It’s all about being dependable – if you say you’ll do something, do it. If you subsequently can’t, speak up immediately. And it’s all about common courtesy – someone is relying on you and others may be relying on their reliance on you. Stay in touch with them, provide updates, make sure there are no surprises. This is one of those areas where talk is NOT cheap – so don’t be cavalier when someone is relying on you and your word. More than many other things in life, this is the stuff of reputations: don’t blow something off if someone is relying on your word. Keep your promises today. 

 

Izey 'Victoria' Odiase: Self-Care & Personal Development Advocate.